How do the good and bad examples set by others offer you lessons on how to live

How do the good and bad examples set by others offer you lessons on how to live?

—Calm App Reflection

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When most people think about coaching, they visualize two people having a conversation, or someone speaking with a group such as a sports team. In both cases, speaking and listening seem integral to the process.

What if far more coaching occurred with a bit more show and a lot less tell?

In this case, our sense of sight and our ability to notice significant and subtle behaviors would play a more important role in what we take away and apply to our own efforts.

Our ability to explore the successful and unsuccessful results of our actions can then be applied to our future attempts.

EXERCISE:

Who are the people that set the best examples to help guide your life?

Where are your seeing bad examples to avoid?

How does an objective examination of the results of your efforts provide the best lessons to carry forward through your days?

Help. Other. People. Evolve.

Help. Other. People. Evolve. (HOPE)

—Author Unknown

Photo from Flickr by GotCredit

Photo from Flickr by GotCredit

One of the main reasons I enjoy the coaching profession is that it is a very hopeful way of relating with others. We are constantly exploring new and different approaches to better our lives and have a more fulfilling future.

To this end, I encourage you to pursue the two-way street of being a coach for others and having a variety of coaches to support your own evolving life.

EXERCISE:

Identify one of your unique abilities or special talents and share it with someone in your world who could benefit.

Select a specific area of growth and development you most desire. Secure a coach, mentor, or other individual to support your progress in this area.

Repeat this exercise often.

“A Teacher Affects…”

“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.”

—Henry Brooks Adams, American historian and member of the Adams political family

Photo from Flickr by Anne Adrian

Photo from Flickr by Anne Adrian

Among the core values explored and discussed with my clients is their fundamental desire and passion to contribute to the lives of others.

When we examine the wide variety of roles each of them play in their professional and personal worlds, the opportunities seem limitless.

Who are the teachers, mentors, coaches, and other life supporters who have made the biggest difference in your life? Where have you noticed yourself “paying forward” valuable lessons to those whom you care about?

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom can you share your knowledge, wisdom, and life lessons to influence the lives of others, and more fully realize your unique contribution to eternity?

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

– Lao Tzu, founder of Taoism

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Lao Tzu must have been an outstanding coach. Many coaching philosophies have at their core the concept that virtually all answers lie within each individual. If this is the case, why has there been such a phenomenal growth in this industry?

Many coaches, including me, assert that the engaging, committed, and inquiry-based coaching relationship literally draws these answers out of each client to clarify and crystallize this inner knowing.

Once these answers are made clear, the coach provides the ongoing reminder and support system to assist the client to pursue their authentic life journey toward their deepest held desires.

Exercise:

Who are the coaches in your life that will help you answer the important questions regarding who you are and what you want, and support you to realize your best future self?

If you would like to explore my own coaching services, please start by looking at my flagship program, Personal Excellence Training:

http://www.dempcoaching.com/personal-excellence-training