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When we can lay down our fear and anger and choose responses other than aggression,

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“When we can lay down our fear and anger and choose responses other than aggression, we create the conditions for bringing out the best in us humans.”

—Margaret Wheatley, American writer, speaker, and management consultant

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To what degree are these times bringing out the worst in us as humans?

How much fear, anger, and aggression have you seen in the media and your communities over the past several months?

Consider Victor Frankl‘s statement: Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can you choose to keep a cool and level head in these turbulent times?

How can you mindfully choose more appropriate responses to the hotheads around you, to bring out the best in yourself and others?

Examining our fears can help soften them

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Examining our fears can help soften them. Taking action can eliminate them.

—Calm App Reflection

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What is your relationship with fear?

How often do you experience it?

What are some examples where you’ve been paralyzed by its grip?

Consider times when you faced these roadblocks and acted anyway.

How did you soften or eliminate some of these barriers through thoughtful examination and courageous effort?

EXERCISE:

What’s possible for your life on the other side of your fears?

How could you examine them more closely to see that many are only offering False Evidence that Appears Real (FEAR)?

As a frightened man in a burning boat has only one way to the rest of his life

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“As a frightened man in a burning boat has only one way to the rest of his life, we must move with courage through the wall of flame into the greater sea.”

Mark Nepo, poet and spiritual adviser

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Where and when in your life did you last demonstrate significant courage? What are some examples of facing your fears and jumping into an unsettled sea?

Today’s quote does not suggest we risk life and limb as proof of courage, but does  suggest that we should welcome the heat, and test the waters of our days more often.

What are some current situations in which you are experiencing the flames of fears?

When in the past did you step through such flames, standing taller on the other side?

EXERCISE:

To what degree is your current level of courage putting you on a course to fulfill the vision you have for your life?

When can and will you step up and over the edge of your fears to realize far more of your potential?

 

Our minds put limits on what we can and will do

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Our minds put limits on what we can and will do. Acknowledge these inner voices and do these things anyway.

—Calm App Reflection

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A colleague once told me that in almost all situations what stops us in life is stopping.

Before our bodies stop moving, however, comes a warning message from our brain. It warns us to stop for various reasons that can often be refuted upon a more objective review.

When was the last time your mind told you to slam on the brakes?

How valid were your reasons for stopping?

What was gained—or perhaps more importantly—what was lost by not proceeding in your efforts?

EXERCISE:

Where has F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) stopped you recently?

How can you courageously override some of these signals and give things a go when life and limb aren’t on the line?

Friday Review: Fear

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Friday Review: Fear

How often do you let fear stop you from achieving your goal? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.”

 

 

 

“Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”

 

 

 

“Present fears are less than horrible imaginings.”

 

 

 

 

We can choose to be courageous whether we are ready or not

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We can choose to be courageous whether we are ready or not.

—Calm App Reflection

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Today’s thought reminds me of Hugh Laurie’s quote, “There is no such thing as ready. There is only now.”

How much of the time do you find yourself in a state of preparation before you shoot, ship, or act? When we wait to actually feel ready and 100% confident on our success, we are probably too late.

We recently saw and enjoyed the new Elvis movie. I was surprised to learn about how nervous and fearful Elvis was before getting on stage to shake things up in his unique and controversial style.

EXERCISE:

In what parts of your life are you waiting to be ready?

Where is it time to shake things up?

How would choosing to be more courageous help you realize more of your full potential?

It may be Now or Never.

“Both faith and fear may sail into your harbor. But allow only faith to drop anchor.”

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“Both faith and fear may sail into your harbor. But allow only faith to drop anchor.”

—Author Unknown

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When was the last time you went boating?

What is it like to watch the comings and goings of vessels as they enter and leave their assigned marina slips?

What is a typical speed during these maneuvers? What happens to the boats and the passengers when someone exceeds the limit?

EXERCISE:

To what degree are you experiencing the wake and excessive wave action of fear in your life and in your communities?

Where would the slow, stabilizing attribute of greater faith calm the seas of this world and make for safer harbors?

Friday Review: Fear

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FRIDAY REVIEW: FEAR

How often do you let fear stop you from achieving your goal? Here are a few fear-related posts you may have missed. Happy Halloween!

 

“Do one thing each day that scares you.”

 

 

 

 

“Become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid.”

 

 

 

 

“If it scares you, it may be a good thing to try.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

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“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”

—George Addair, Late Founder of The Omega Vector

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When have you faced your fears recently?

When have you faced a particular fear in the past?

What results did you produce, and how did getting to the other side feel?

What frightens you these days? Dig below your surface answers and keep asking yourself what else? What else?

How does this fear show up in your body and mind? Take note of these thoughts and feelings, because they are clues where you can summon the courage to break through these barriers in the future.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can you take on a few of your smaller fears today?

Where can you summon the support of others in your personal and professional communities to take on a few of the bigger ones?

What is there to gain on the other side?