“Life’s strongest glue is being happy to be you!”

“Life’s strongest glue is being happy to be you!”

-Author Unknown

Photo from Flickr by Sam-Catch

Photo from Flickr by Sam-Catch

Have you ever heard someone say another person “has it all together”?

What exactly does this mean? If we look at attributes that could pertain to this statement, we might include the following:

  • Professional Success
  • Quality Relationships
  • Health
  • Good Looks
  • Intelligence / Wisdom

This quote points to self-acceptance as an important factor, providing the foundation and adhesive that helps us have a fulfilling life.

EXERCISE:

What are your strongest inner qualities that most support your having a full and happy life?

In what ways can you expand or enhance these attributes to further strengthen your life?

“To strengthen the muscle of your heart the best exercise is lifting someone else’s spirit when you can.”

“To strengthen the muscle of your heart the best exercise is lifting someone else’s spirit when you can.”

—Author unknown

Photo from Flickr by tiff_ku1

Photo from Flickr by tiff_ku1

Did you know that your heart beats over 100,000 times in one day, and over 35 million times in a year? If you live an average lifetime, your heart will beat more than 2.5 billion times.

Each beat of your heart has about the same force as giving a tennis ball a hard squeeze. This force circulates approximately 5.9 quarts of blood through your body, three times every minute.

Through this constant effort the heart pumps the equivalent of about one million barrels of blood during an average lifetime, which is enough to fill more than three super tankers.

EXERCISE:

How can you exercise your heart today by being a coach, mentor, or friend to others, and lift their spirits higher?

“A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live.”

“A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live.”

– Bertrand Russell, British philosopher

591Image from Flickr by Jamie In Bytown.

If you research happiness, you will discover that most people who describe frequent experience of it include numerous quiet and reflective situations in their lives.

These include meditation, prayer, walking in nature, reading, journaling, and some other forms of reflective writing.

Exercise:

Examine your current life volume and consider turning it down a bit. Look at taking several blocks of quiet time daily to recharge, rejuvenate, and renew yourself.

Feel free to reply to this message with any of your own quiet pursuits that bring you greater joy and happiness.

“Anything you’re good at contributes to happiness.”

“Anything you’re good at contributes to happiness.”

– Bertrand Russell, British philosopher

587Image from Flickr by Kool Cats Photography.

Make a list of the things you excel at. Most likely, just thinking of these activities will bring a smile to your face. You probably lose track of time while engaging in these pursuits, and have the experience of being “in the zone”.

On the other hand, creating even a shortlist of those activities where you struggle or perform poorly will usually involve avoidance, procrastination, and a pretty grumpy you!

Exercise:

How would playing even more to your strengths and reducing your time spent in your areas of weakness increase your overall life satisfaction?

Be careful to note that it took considerable effort and practice to get good at these things in the first place, and please continue to start and try new things all the time.

“No matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.”

“No matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.”

– Anthony J. D’Angelo, American writer

558Image from Flickr by emerille.

Do you ever daydream of living in a place that is always sunny, where the temperature is always ideal, where there are no major storms, hurricanes, tornadoes, etc?

If you do a bit of research, you will discover these top places to live, with relatively ideal weather:

1. Manjimup region, Australia

2. Lisbon, Portugal

3. The northwestern coast of Morocco

4. San Diego, California

5. Barcelona, Spain

6. Vina del Mar, Chile

7. Sassari, Sardinia

8. Adelaide, South Australia

Exercise:

Assuming you don’t plan to move to any of the places above in the near future, how can you optimize your attitude and general life perspective to bring a bit more sunshine into your world?

“Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, “

“Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.”

– Martin Luther King, Jr., Civil Rights Leader

517Image from Flickr by mikebaird.

“Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” is a well-known phrase in the United States Declaration of Independence.

King is suggesting here that perhaps the people who drafted this famous document had it somewhat wrong and that searching for happiness for others is the key to discovering it for ourselves.

Exercise:

How can you seek and support the happiness of others in your personal and professional life?

Consider taking a Post-it® note with the phrase “make their day” on it, and placing it somewhere visible in your office or home as a reminder. I bet your efforts will make your day as well.

“At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.”

“At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.”

– Unknown

464Image from Flickr by Ira Gelb.

Where do you fit along the optimism – pessimism continuum? Are you a half-full or half-empty kind of person? For the purpose of living a happier, more fulfilling life, the answer matters quite a bit.

Some of the benefits of optimism include:

  • Increased longevity.
  • Increased spiritual development and enlightenment.
  • More positive, supportive relationships.
  • Greater strength and resolve in times of crisis and difficulty.
  • Reduced anxiety, frustration and worry.
  • Enhanced persistence, which is an essential trait required to achieve success.
  • Greater productivity, potentially leading to faster career progression.
  • Greater patience, and greater physiological and psychological well-being.

When we bring a more optimistic perspective to our limiting beliefs, we are far more likely to fully explore and engage our own innate capabilities and live a fuller, happier life.

Exercise:

To learn more about the power of optimism, please visit www.lifeoptimizer.org/2010/03/24/benefits-of-optimism.

You can also consider two books by Martin Seligman, Learned Optimism and Authentic Happiness.

If you only have time for a relatively quick read, pick up a copy of Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar. If you only have a minute to spare each day, keep reading and doing the exercises found in the The Quotable Coach series. 🙂

Finally, please consider spreading your optimistic perspective on life by sharing The Quotable Coach with others who could benefit. You could send them a link to your favorite quote at www.thequotablecoach.com.

“Happiness, that grand mistress of the ceremonies in the dance of life, impels…”

“Happiness, that grand mistress of the ceremonies in the dance of life, impels us through all its mazes and meanderings, but leads none of us by the same route.”

– Charles Caleb Colton, English cleric, writer and collector

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Image from Flickr by alana sise.

Recently, I began watching a TV series on the National Geographic channel called “Life Below Zero.” The storyline follows the life of four different families living in Northern Alaska in one of the harshest and coldest environments possible.

What makes this show so interesting and intriguing for me is how passionate they all are about their lifestyle, and how happy they all are with their choices, despite the considerable hardship of living off the land in the rugged Alaska wilderness.

Exercise:

What is your current route toward happiness? How can you better embrace the mazes and meanderings that are leading you on your own unique journey?

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”

– Buddha

Today, Wednesday 27th November, the holiday of Hanukkah begins. As part of this celebration, it is traditional to light the Hanukkah candles with the shamash candle. The shamash does not count as one of the Hanukkah candles but it is used to light all the others.

Exercise:

Imagine that your life force is a candle that has the power to bring happiness and light up the lives of others.

How will you use this gift today (and throughout the holiday season and the new year) to do just that?

“A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.”

“A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.”

– Phyllis Diller, late American comedian

Image from Unsplash by Petr Sevcovic

I recently attended a seminar where the speaker suggested that using Google was a great idea catalyst. From my research on the importance of smiling, here are a few interesting facts I’d like to share:

Smiling…

  • Slows the heart rate and relaxes the body.
  • Releases endorphins and diminishes stress and improves our mood.
  • Must have been used by the Seven Dwarves to increase their productivity as they whistled while they worked.
  • Improves relationships by increasing trust and building empathy.
  • Makes us more appealing and attractive – yes, smiling makes us look younger.
  • Improves our immune system and lowers our blood pressure.
  • Conveys optimism and positivity that helps us be more successful.

Exercise:

How can you smile more and turn that frown upside down to improve your life and, as Phyllis Diller suggests, to set everything straight?