“When you spend serious time and effort on transcendental things, it puts your little world into…

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“When you spend serious time and effort on transcendental things, it puts your little world into proper context and takes the focus off yourself.”

—Arthur C. Brooks, American author and speaker

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The few months we recently spent in Florida have been revealing in two significant ways:

The first is how often we design our lives from the outside in.

The second is that we have even more opportunities to design our lives from the inside out.

The warmer climate definitely offers us greater freedom from the choice of clothes we wore to the time we spent outdoors. Both increased the likelihood of daily exercise and the enjoyment of nature.

Spending time in our senior community also helped me see how people’s priorities shift as they age.

Although there is always a bit of gossip and the focus on little things, most people seemed far more interested in what was most significant and meaningful given the finite nature of their lives.

EXERCISE:

How and where are you spending your precious time as the days and years go by?

Where and how could more transcendental things fit into this picture?

Where do you experience the flow of life without interference

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Where do you experience the flow of life without interference? Go there when you wish to feel the sensation of effortless effort.

—Calm App Reflection

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How often do you feel you are swimming upstream, against the current? Where in your personal and professional life do you experience the greatest resistance to your best intentions and efforts?

What strategies and approaches are helpful when you feel you are about to go under?

With these examples in mind, shift your mental and emotional compasses 180 degrees to some of the effortless flow states you’ve experienced in the past.

EXERCISE:

Envision yourself as an eagle or another majestic bird soaring on the warm updrafts of air from their surroundings.  How can you revisit this and other sensations of effortless effort when the world gets you down?

“Always create before you consume.”

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“Always create before you consume.”

—Rich Litvin, co-author of The Prosperous Coach

Image from Unsplash by Alyson McPhee

During our time in Florida as snowbirds, we eat out at least once — and sometimes multiple times — each day.

When we are not sharing meals with friends, we are usually tired and find ourselves eating leftovers from our excursions.

Although it’s easy and nice to have food prepared for us, I find even greater pleasure and satisfaction eating the foods we prepare at home with our own hands.

Somehow each dish just tastes better with the added love and attention that went into it.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life do you enjoy the creative process before you consume?

How does doing so add more sweetness and flavor to your world?

The more comfortable you become in your skin

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“The more comfortable you become in your skin, the less you need to manufacture the world around you for comfort.”

—Cory Muscara, mindfulness advisor & Univ. of Pennsylvania instructor

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How many ways can you think of to seek comfort from the world around you? Explore this list and add a few more of your own:

  • The foods you eat
  • The temperature of your home
  • The clothes you wear
  • The time saving devices you use
  • The job you perform
  • The people with whom you associate
  • The apps on your computer or phone
  • Your focus on entertainment and leisure

EXERCISE:

Experiment with increasing longer blocks of time just sitting in the skin you are in.

Focus on just breathing and notice where your mind goes when you are not going anywhere or doing anything.

What insights can you take from this exercise that could apply to the rest of your day?

There are no traffic jams along the extra mile

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“There are no traffic jams along the extra mile.”

—Robert Staubach, former Dallas Cowboy Quarterback

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My signature coaching program — Personal Excellence Training — includes six months of weekly one-on-one coaching to support my client’s personal and professional objectives.

Today’s quote encourages each of us to lace up our sneakers and go the extra mile.

It’s not just about reaching the finish line, it’s about how the journey shapes us along the way.

We know we are on to something special when we push beyond our comfort zones, embrace challenges and give our all when so many others settle for less.

EXERCISE:

Where and when do you strap on your determination and ignite your passions?

When traveling these less crowded roads, don’t be surprised if you meet other champions along the way!

To experience the “Givers Glow” and the “Helpers Halo,” offer

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To experience the “Givers Glow” and the “Helpers Halo,” offer your acts of service and support in direct and specific ways.

—Calm App Reflection

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A close friend of ours was recently hospitalized. We live in the same building and after her first call to 911, she called us.

As part of our mutual friendship, we exchange keys to one another’s condos to let ourselves in and support one another when there is a need.

In addition to our visits to the hospital, daily check ins, and making a few of her favorite foods when she got home, she kept recounting that getting to her so quickly was the key to knowing she was going to be OK.

EXERCISE:

What direct and specific acts of support and service are the keys to open the doors of your most important relationships?

We can take a wonderful vacation in spirit, even though

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“We can take a wonderful vacation in spirit, even though we are obliged to stay at home, if we will only drop our burdens from our minds for a while.”

—Laura Ingalls Wilder, late author of Little House on the Prairie

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Taking a vacation usually means heading out on the open road and going someplace new.

There is almost always a good deal of anticipation and excitement during these times, and who doesn’t need a break from the routine trials and tribulations of everyday life?

How many days a year do you get or give yourself for actual vacations?

To what degree is it never enough before you have to return to the usual, ordinary grind?

When we go on vacations there is usually a shift in our mindset and attitude. Why is it that we wait for only a few weeks a year to give ourself permission to drop our burdens of the mind?

EXERCISE:

How could you introduce vacations of spirt into many more of your days?

How would doing so lighten your load and free your mind to lead a more richly rewarding life?

I’ve got some advice for the young

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“I’ve got some advice for the young. If you’ve got anything you really want to do, don’t wait until you’re 93.”

—Charlie Munger, late philanthropist and Vice-Chairman of Berkshire Hathaway

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My wife and I are snowbirds, spending around three months of the year in Florida. In our community there, we are members of various clubs and engage in numerous activities to keep that youthful pep in our steps.

A few weeks ago, we took a day trip to Fort Myers with about 35 other seniors.

Along with the 2½ hour bus ride, our excursion included a delicious buffet lunch and a fantastic production of the Carole King musical, Beautiful.

Although many of our bus mates were moving a bit slower than in years past, they clearly weren’t waiting to seek and find more beautiful things about life.

EXERCISE:

Regardless of your age, where in your life are you waiting for “some day” to do the things you want?

As Sam Horn’s book title declares: Someday is Not a Day of the Week.