My experience of life is what I agree to attend to

“My experience of life is what I agree to attend to.”

William James, 19th Century American philosopher, historian, and psychologist

Image form Unsplash by Fábio Lucas

How do you spend your days?

Who do you spend them with?

How agreeable and satisfied are your answers to these questions?

To what degree do you feel free to attend to your days as you desire?

How is your ability to choose your path blocked by factors outside of your control?

I recently reached a meditation milestone of 1400 consecutive days—the mindfulness exercises have been of significant value to my life off the cushion.

Building greater acceptance, patience, and compassion, and being more equanimous with life as it unfolds have been bonuses to my initial efforts to be less stressed, and grow calmer.

EXERCISE:

What steps can and will you take in the coming days to enhance your experience of life, and that to which you attend?

There is a big difference between fresh air and an air freshener

“There is a big difference between fresh air and an air freshener.”

Gretchen Rubin, NYT Bestselling Author

Image from Unsplash by Matthias Hyde

AQI or Air Quality Index is a term more and more people are familiar with these days due to the many Canadian wildfires.

Do a search for the most polluted cities in the world and you might be shocked at how many cities are almost always at unhealthy, severe, and hazardous levels.

Looking beyond forest fires, what other activities are the cause of such hazardous conditions?

Look into the ingredient lists of various air fresheners and you’ll see many noxious substances adding to the toxic load!

How aware are you of the things you put into your body?

How mindful are you of what’s in your food, water, and air, and their impact on your health?

EXERCISE:

What can and will you do to clean up your inner and outer worlds so we can all breathe a little easier tomorrow?

 

Linger in the space between thoughts

Linger in the space between thoughts and discover what stillness has to offer.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Jack Dylan

How do you feel when you drive in city traffic?

Does the lack of space between vehicles increase your vigilance, heart rate, and blood pressure?

What is it like to drive along a scenic country road without another car in sight?

In what ways is the pace of your life and the world around you causing traffic jams in your mind, with no exit ramp in sight?

How long can you go without a few benders or major disruptions to your health and well-being?

EXERCISE:

Where and in what ways can you create greater space for yourself?

How could you benefit from blocks of stillness, taking your foot off the gas and lingering in the space between thoughts?

Friday Review: Personal Growth

Friday Review: Personal Growth

What do you find inspirational in terms of your personal growth? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Throw your heart over the fence and the rest will follow.”

 

 

 

“More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”

 

 

 

“Learning never exhausts the mind.”

 

 

 

 

 

One’s life begins on so many occasions, constructing itself out of accident derived from coincidence compounded by character

“One’s life begins on so many occasions, constructing itself out of accident derived from coincidence compounded by character.”

Donald Hall, 20th Century American poet, writer, editor and literary critic

Image from Unsplash by Kyle Glenn

How often do you reflect on your life and how you arrived at where you are today?

What are some of the pivotal moments—big and small—that changed your life direction and set you on different paths than those you intended?

Although we wish to believe that we have complete control over our lives and can be self-determined, we can all see countless examples in which that was not the case.

Accidents, coincidences, and serendipity play a considerable role in where we end up.

Fortunately,  our character—which we develop over time—act as a gyroscope to help us regain our headings when certain events knock us off course.

EXERCISE:

What are some of the essential elements of your character?

How have they kept you centered and stable over the years, to keep your life unfolding as you intend?

You can’t win if you are not in the game

“You can’t win if you are not in the game.”

James Clear, Author of Atomic Habits

Honey takes a nap

Over the past several months, many of my posts have included my thoughts and reflections of my grandchildren.  Today’s post involves their dog, Honey.

Honey is a fluffy white nine-year-old miniature poodle who definitely doesn’t act her age.

The minute we step in the door she shifts into a puppy mode of frenetic excitement at the prospect of playing fetch. Her wagging tail, flopping ears, extended tongue and jumps of joy say, Put Me in Coach, I want to play and show you my stuff!

EXERCISE:

Where in your life are you on the field and in the game?

Where are you on the bench or on the sidelines watching others?

What games get your tail wagging with excitement?

A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company

“A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company.”

Charles Evans Hughes, 11th Chief Justice of the United States

 

Image from Unsplash by Caspian Dahlström

Imagine spending a month or more completely alone, with no one to talk with.

The Netflix series “Alone” places ten individuals with expert survival skills in remote locations. Their goal is to live off the land and outlast the other nine participants, whom they never meet.

In the early stages of this adventure everyone is stoked, positive about the opportunity to challenge themselves, become the last one standing, and receive a $500,000 prize for their effort.

Building shelters, sourcing food and water, and braving the elements keeps everyone pretty occupied, especially during the daylight hours. At night their thoughts often go to a darker side of the experience, given their complete isolation.

With their two video cameras and their efforts at documentary filmmaking, we see their wild journeys that include the physical and mental aspects of starvation and loneliness.

EXERCISE:

Describe the company you keep in your personal and professional worlds.

How much alone time do you experience?

How successful are you at befriending yourself during periods of isolation and loneliness?

Please reply to this post with your thoughts and feelings.

Explore the softening effect of an open heart

Explore the softening effect of an open heart. Enter new frontiers of your world unarmed and with your shields down.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Tim Milk

A few weeks ago, I was invited out to breakfast with several walking buddies. The conversation took a nostalgic turn to examine the ways in which the world has changed since we were kids.

Back then things like virus protection and cyber-attacks were not part of our vocabulary, and it was not uncommon to leave our doors to our homes unlocked. Home security systems, double authentication, and constantly being on guard for scams and the latest Ponzi scheme were not on our radar. It seemed like a much simpler and friendlier time where mutual trust was the norm.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life do you have your shields up?

How does taking this stance influence your relationships with those around you?

How could a more open-hearted, unarmed approach enhance your life and the world around you?

 

Friday Review: Worry

Friday Review: Worry

How often do you consider or question the benefits of worrying? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.”

 

 

 

 

“Worry is a misuse of the imagination.”

 

 

 

“Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”

 

 

 

 

Tears of joy are like the summer raindrops pierced by sunbeams

“Tears of joy are like the summer raindrops pierced by sunbeams.”

Hosea Ballou, 19th Century American clergyman

Image from Unsplash by Hanna Morris

When was the last time you experienced tears of joy?

Who was present and what occasion or event precipitated this precipitation?

For me, it all started with pizza night at our daughter’s home.

During dinner, my 5 year old grandson Weston introduced me to a new word he learned —informing me that his room was “a disaster.”

Since we usually head upstairs to play on my visits, I suggested he take 5-10 minutes to clean up and proudly show off his speedy efforts.

Our daughter Rachel and little Ella (21 months) joined in the fun to everyone’s delight.

Being an old softy, I couldn’t help tearing up and laughing at the sight of these little ones playing with me and their wonderful mom.

EXERCISE:

Who are the people who pierce the raindrops of your life with sunbeams?

Please feel free to reply to this post with one of your own joyful moments.