“Never make a big decision without sleeping on it.”

“Never make a big decision without sleeping on it.”

Martha Stewart, TV personality, entrepreneur, author, and businesswoman

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When faced with a big decision, it’s tempting to act impulsively.

However, taking a step back and sleeping on it can be incredibly beneficial.

A night’s rest allows emotions to settle and rational thinking to prevail. This pause gives us time to reflect on potential outcomes and consider different perspectives.

This simple practice can lead to greater clarity and confidence in our choices, ultimately guiding us to more fulfilling and successful lives.

EXERCISE:

Two books that can help you make better personal and professional decisions, especially with a good night’s sleep are:

Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
Decisive: How to make Better Choices in Life and Work by Chip and Dan Heath

Our senses help us escape the ghettos of our mind

“Our senses help us escape the ghettos of our mind.”

—Author Unknown

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Our five senses serve as a gateway, liberating us from the confines of our mental ghettos:

  1. Sight paints the world in vibrant hues, breaking through the monochrome of introspection.
  2. Sound orchestrates a symphony of life, drowning out the echoes of our inner critic.
  3. Taste awakens primal pleasures, reminding us of life’s simple joys amidst complex ruminations.
  4. Smell, with its power to evoke memories, transports us beyond the boundaries of our current mental state.
  5. Touch connects us to everything and especially to one another to feel a sense of belonging within our world.

Together, these sensory experiences form a bridge between our inner world and the rich tapestry of reality, offering escape routes from the labyrinth of our minds.

EXERCISE:

Consider reading Gretchen Rubin’s book Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World to live a fuller richer life.

Success is no Hocus-Pocus

“Success is no Hocus-Pocus. Success is Focus-Focus.”

—Author Unknown

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Focus is the cornerstone of both personal and professional success.

By concentrating on specific goals, individuals and groups can achieve clarity and direction, leading to more efficient use of time and resources.

A focused mindset helps prioritize tasks, overcome distractions, and maintain motivation.

In a world with constant distractions, cultivating focus allows you to stay on track and make meaningful progress.

Whether in career achievement or personal growth, maintaining focus is essential for realizing ambitions and reaching our full potential.

It’s a key that unlocks the doors to our dreams and can help makes them a reality.

EXERCISE:

To help you discover the magic of this important skill, please check out the book The Power of Focus written by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Les Hewitt.

When you dip in and out of awareness

When you dip in and out of awareness, how can you simply be with what is without wanting to be somewhere else?

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Shantung Kulkarni

We often find ourselves oscillating between moments of awareness and distraction.

It is common to feel the urge to escape our situation, yearning for something else.

True peace lies in embracing where we are.

Learning to be present with our thoughts and surroundings, without the desire to be elsewhere, is a profound skill.

By cultivating this mindfulness, we can transform our experiences into opportunities for growth and understanding.

Embracing the present allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and the world around us, leading to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

EXERCISE:

What strategies do and can you use to be more present in your life? Consider reading Eckhart Tolle’s classic book The Power of Now if you see value in this effort.

Friday Review: THINKING

Friday Review: THINKING

How often do you think about the way you (or others) think? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

Alter your thinking about thinking. Sometimes sitting with a question can expand your mind without always needing to find an answer.

 

 

 

 

Sometimes the direct approach doesn’t work. You may need to find and enter the third door to reach your goal.

 

 

 

 

Boost the resolution of your thinking. Notice the self-talk and images that pass through your mind and watch them come into focus.

 

 

 

 

“Change is the end result of all true learning.”

“Change is the end result of all true learning.”

Leo Buscaglia, 20th Century American author, motivational speaker, professor

Image from Unsplash by Nick Fewings

Today’s quote does an efficient job of encapsulating the transformative power of knowledge.

It reminds us that genuine learning goes beyond mere information acquisition — it fundamentally alters our perspectives and behaviors.

When we truly internalize new ideas, we can’t help but evolve. Whether it’s shifting our worldview, adopting new habits, or refining our skills, authentic learning inevitably leads to personal growth.

EXERCISE:

In what ways do you view change as a positive indicator or learning?

To what degree do you remain open and receptive to new ideas and change given our rapidly evolving world?

 

No matter how good you shaved today

“No matter how good you shaved today, you have to do it again tomorrow.”

Reed Markham, University Professor & Author

Image from Unsplash by Supply

Today’s quote encapsulates a fundamental truth about life and personal growth.

It reminds us that excellence is not a one-time achievement, but a continuous process.

Just like shaving, our personal and professional development requires daily attention and effort. We can’t just rest on our laurels or past accomplishments. Each day presents new challenges and opportunities for growth.

It’s not about perfection but about showing up every day, embracing the attributes of consistency and persistence. By adopting this mindset, we can cultivate lasting habits and achieve sustainable success in all areas of our lives.

EXERCISE:

Replace the word shaved in the following sentence:

No matter how good you __________ today, you have to do it again tomorrow to have the life you want.

“Is your default setting to defend your limitations of expand your possibilities?”

“Is your default setting to defend your limitations or expand your possibilities?”

James Clear, author of Atomic Habits

Image from Unsplash by Jan Canty

Defending one’s limitations can be a comfortable trap!

It’s easy to stay within our perceived boundaries, but this mindset stunts our growth and potential.

On the flip side, expanding our capabilities can be challenging and uncomfortable. It pushes us outside our comfort zone and forces us to confront our fears.

The rewards for pushing beyond our perceived limits are immeasurable.

By embracing a growth mindset, we open ourselves to new opportunities, experiences and personal development.

There are enough barriers and obstacles in our outer world.  Why would we ever consider compounding these by setting and fighting for our own?

EXERCISE:

Consider reading Mindset by Carol Dweck.

This foundational book introduces the concept of fixed and growth mindsets, showing how beliefs about our abilities impacts success.

Learning how to grow from the “no’s” in life is a sure strategy for success.

Learning how to grow from the “no’s” in life is a sure strategy for success.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Morgan Bryan

As I reflect on my journey as a coach, I’ve come to realize that Life’s “no’s” often offer the most valuable lessons. These moments of rejection or failure can be transformative if we approach them with curiosity and openness.

By embracing the “no’s” we can refine our strategies, build resilience, and discover new opportunities. In my book The Quotable Coach, Daily Nuggets of Practical Wisdom and this blog, I often emphasize the importance of turning setbacks into stepping stones.

Learning from Life’s “no’s” is not just about overcoming obstacles — it’s about growing into the best version of ourselves.

EXERCISE:

Consider checking out William Ury’s book The Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes for ways to apply this strategy for success in many areas of your life.

Friday Review: TEAMWORK

Friday Review: TEAMWORK

What are your thoughts and beliefs about teamwork? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“A party without cake is just a meeting.”

 

 

 

 

“A single leaf working alone provides no shade.”

 

 

 

Life is not a solo performance. How and where can you collaborate with others to accomplish an important goal?