Friday Review: STILLNESS

Friday Review: STILLNESS

When and in what way do you bring stillness into your day? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Stillness is what aims the archer’s arrow, it inspires new ideas, it sharpens perspective and illuminates connections.

 

 

 

Linger in the space between thoughts and discover what stillness has to offer.

 

 

 

 

 

“When you don’t know what to do, do nothing, be still.”

 

 

 

 

I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice

“I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives.”

The 14th Dalai Lama, head of Tibetan Buddhism

Image from Unsplash by Marcos Paulo Prado

When I think of the word compassion, what initially comes to mind is saint-like sentimentality.

Given the fact that I have admired the Dalai Lama for many years, I figured I’d look a bit deeper into this important human quality.

Here are ten practical ways to demonstrate compassion daily, synthesized from expert recommendations: (source: Perplexity)

  1. Listen actively without judgment: Give full attention to others through eye contact and undivided focus, avoiding distractions like phones.
  2. Offer physical gestures of affection: Use hugs, handshakes, or a pat on the back to provide comfort and connection.
  3. Smile intentionally: Shift from neutral expressions to warm smiles to uplift others in routine interactions.
  4. Hold doors open for others: Assist those with hands full or struggling, offers small moments of relief.
  5. Perform acts of kindness: Help with tasks like carrying groceries, babysitting, donating to those in need.
  6. Express gratitude verbally: Regularly say “thank you” to acknowledge the efforts of others, from service workers to loved ones.
  7. Ask directly about needs: Inquire “What do you need?” to tailor support effectively, showing respect for their autonomy.
  8. Volunteer time: Dedicate hours to community service, food banks, or mentoring programs.
  9. Use encouraging language: Replace criticism with positive language to boost confidence.
  10. Send heartfelt messages: Text or write notes expressing care, such as “I’m thinking of you.

EXERCISE:

Which of these actions can you include in your daily efforts to demonstrate greater compassion in your communities?

My wish for you is that you continue

“My wish for you is that you continue. Continue to be who you are, to astonish a mean world with your acts of kindness. The effect you have on other’s lives is the highest expression of your own.”

Maya Angelou, in a letter to her daughter

 Image from Wikipedia

Maya Angelou was an American memoirist, poet, and civil rights activist. She published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years.

Among her many awards and honors are:

  • 50 honorary degrees from prestigious institutions
  • The presidential medal of freedom (2010) — the highest civilian honor in the U.S.
  • National Medal of Arts (2000)
  • Three Grammy awards for her spoken word albums
  • Induction into the National Women’s Hall of Fame in 1998

Given today’s quote, I bet she was an outstanding mother and coach for her daughter through her many positive examples, and of course, her brilliant words.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can the words and deeds of Maya Angelou inspire you to lead a life of greater service and significance?

“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time — that’s the stuff life is made of.”

“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time — that’s the stuff life is made of.”

Benjamin Franklin, oldest signer of the Declaration of Independence

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Poor Richard’s Almanac, published annually by Benjamin Franklin from 1732 to 1758, was very popular in the American colonies. It contained a mix of practical advice, humorous anecdotes, aphorisms, puzzles, and even weather forecasts.

Franklin used it to share enlightenment principles such as reason, self-improvement, and practical wisdom, which fit very nicely with the purpose of The Quotable Coach blog.

Here are few noteworthy nuggets of Franklin’s wisdom to ponder:

  • Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.
  • Well done is better than well said.
  • Beware of little expenses. A small leak will sink a great ship.
  • He that can have patience can have what he will.
  • A true friend is the best possession.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can you better use your precious time to learn, grow, and contribute to others in your various communities?

Which of Franklin’s other quotes are worthy of additional consideration at this time in your life?

It takes a big person to acknowledge and apologize

It takes a big person to acknowledge and apologize for their mistakes. Hiding them doesn’t serve anyone.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Sarah Kilian

No one likes to make mistakes. This is especially true when our errors are observed and most notably negatively impact the lives of others.

How often have you tried to hide your missteps and dodge responsibility for your part in things going wrong?

In these days, where nothing ever seems to remain a secret for long, covering things up always ends poorly.

Beyond the potential public embarrassment that might await us, there is always the personal cost we all pay for the guilt and shame we often experience when we come up short of our espoused values and intentions.

EXERCISE:

Where in your world are you trying to hide a mistake from others?

How can and will you be a bigger person by acknowledging and apologizing for your errors, and enhance the quality of your relationships with others in your personal and professional communities?

Friday Review — Skill

Friday Review— Skill

We don’t all have the same skills. What are yours? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”

 

 

 

 

“He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skills. Our antagonist is our helper.”

 

 

 

 

“Life is a lot like Jazz… it’s best when you improvise.”

 

 

 

 

The person who carefully designs their daily routines

“The person who carefully designs their daily routines goes further than the person who negotiates with themselves every day.”

Shane Parrish, creator of the Farnam Street Blog

Image from Unsplash by Marissa Grootes

By designing daily routines, you create a framework that supports your goals and well-being, reducing the need for constant self-discipline and making it easier to maintain a balanced, productive lifestyle.

Here are a few key benefits of a carefully designed daily routine:

  • It reduces the need for constant decision making, allowing you to move from one task to another without wasting time and energy.
  • Routines provide structure and predictability, which can significantly lower stress and promote a sense of calm and control.
  • Consistent daily habits can boost mental well-being by providing a sense of purpose and stability.
  • A daily routine often includes consistent sleep and wake times along with regular exercise — which support improved physical health and overall productivity.

EXERCISE:

How can creating better daily routines help you achieve more in your personal and professional lives?

Where can and will you start today to tap into the magic of momentum offered by these new habits?

Table tennis requires unwavering concentration

“Table tennis requires unwavering concentration, mental resilience, strategic thinking, emotional control, self-confidence, and adaptability.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Jure Zakotnik

Although Pickleball is all the rage these days, I have come to favor a good old-fashion game of Ping Pong for many reasons, including:

  • Ping Pong is easier for beginners, as the table is much smaller and requires less movement.
  • Ping Pong tables are significantly smaller (9ft x 5 ft) compared to a pickleball court (44ft x 20ft), making it more suitable for indoor spaces and home use.
  • Ping Pong can be played year-round indoors regardless of the weather conditions.
  • At intermediate and advanced levels, Ping Pong offers lightning-fast, close quarters gameplay with quick exchanges, which can be more exciting for those who enjoy rapid fire action.
  • While still requiring good reflexes and coordination, Ping Pong is less physically demanding than pickleball, making it accessible to people of all ages and fitness levels.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life would better concentration, mental resilience, enhanced strategic thinking, improved self-control, greater self-confidence, and adaptability come in handy?

If these qualities sound good to you, why not give Ping Pong a spin?

Attention doesn’t scale

“Attention doesn’t scale, no matter how hard we try.”

Seth Godin, American author and a former dot-com business executive

Image from Unsplash by Luis Villasmil

In our fast-paced world we often try to multitask and divide our attention, believing we can scale our focus across multiple priorities.

Unfortunately, our attention doesn’t scale, no matter how hard we try.

When we spread ourselves thin, we dilute the quality of our presence and engagement.

Deep, meaningful connections and breakthroughs occur when we give our undivided attention to one task, one person, or one moment at a time.

By embracing the power of focus you unlock your full potential and create space for innovation, growth, and genuine human connection.

Remember, it’s not about doing more, but about being fully present in what you do.

EXERCISE:

What are the costs of spreading your time and attention too thin?

Where would greater focus on fewer things be a more optimal approach to a happier, more productive and meaningful life?

 

Take a moment to investigate and celebrate

Take a moment to investigate and celebrate the mystery and miracle of your very existence.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Annie Spratt

The search for intelligent life beyond Earth has made significant strides in recent years.

NASA’s chief scientists predicted ten years ago that we might find strong indications of extraterrestrial life by now, but that timeline hasn’t materialized.

Initiatives like Breakthrough Listen have dramatically increased our observation capabilities and advanced telescopes and exoplanet discoveries have expanded our understanding of other potential habitable worlds.

Citizen science projects like SETI@HOME has democratized our search efforts and we can all be grateful that we are looking out into the universe from the mystery and miracle of our conscious existence.

EXERCISE:

Whether looking into a telescope or a microscope, how can you be more fully inspired and grateful for your life and the ride we all get to take on this beautiful blue spaceship?