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The river never drinks its own water. The tree never tastes its own fruit.

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“The river never drinks its own water. The tree never tastes its own fruit. The field never consumes its own harvest. They selflessly strive for the well-being of all those around them.”

—Margaret Wheatley, American writer, speaker, and management consultant

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When we reflect on the complexities of our world it’s easy to see that most of it is man’s doing.

Who hasn’t considered the meaning of their life from time to time?

When we strip away all the chaos and delve into the natural world, our burdens become lighter and our visions become clearer.

Maybe life is simply about finding ways to serve and support others and the world.

When we do, everyone wins.

EXERCISE:

To what degree do you focus your daily efforts on serving others?

What would the world be like if we all made this our top priority?

There is no power for change greater than

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“There is no power for change greater than a community discovering what it cares about.”

—Margaret Wheatley, American writer, speaker, and management consultant

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About three and a half years ago we moved from our home in SE Michigan to be closer to our family in and around Philadelphia. Although we moved a few times related to my career in prior years, this move was the most challenging.

After more than 30 years in the same location, moving required more than a bit of uprooting.

We were no longer young with boundless energy, and the release of so much history and “stuff” were daunting and liberating at the same time.

EXERCISE:

What issues and communities do you care about deeply?

How have you and can you embrace these commitments to help make the necessary changes to live an even more meaningful and wonderful life?

What are your unique qualities and how do you honor them?

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What are your unique qualities and how do you honor them?

—Calm App Reflection

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To what degree are you your own worst critic?

How often do you drone on to yourself and others and see yourself as inadequate?

In what areas are you simply not (fill in the blank) enough to meet your own standards or the bar set for you by the world?

Although this kind of thinking can sometimes spur us on toward greater achievements, it most often keeps us small and causes us to hide, limiting ourselves and the contributions we could make.

EXERCISE:

Who are the people that know you best? Ask them to share and acknowledge your most unique and positive qualities.

How can and will you embrace and honor those qualities and lower the volume on your inner critic?

Three books that can help you honor your unique qualities are:
Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
Now Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Don Clifton PhD
Originals by Adam Grant

 

Friday Review: Failure

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FRIDAY REVIEW: FAILURE

How do you define and react to failure? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”

 

 

 

 

“If you call failures experiments, you can put them on your resume and claim them as achievements.”

 

 

 

 

“Don’t think of it as failure. Think of it as time-released success.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way

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“Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way.”

—Edward deBono, 20th Century Maltese physician and commentator

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The other day, I was walking with a neighbor who also loves to cook.

In our discussion, I learned that his career is that of a food chemist, and that he often uses varied approaches to make his meals — especially his desserts.

Although there are many times it is appropriate to follow specific recipes to the letter, he was particularly animated when our conversation took a turn toward adjusting one’s approach — particularly when certain ingredients are not available.

EXERCISE:

Where and how can you think and operate outside your cookbook of success to whip up some new and creative recipes to spice up your life?

“Exercise may be the single most potent medical intervention ever known.”

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“Exercise may be the single most potent medical intervention ever known.”

—Derek Thompson, in an interview with Euan Ashley

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As with all medical advice, you may want to consult your physician before reading further.

Today’s quote is based on an interview between Euan Ashley, a professor of cardiovascular medicine, genetics and data science at Stanford University, and Derek Thompson.

Beyond the many listed benefits of exercise, perhaps the boldest statement from their discussion was “One minute of exercise buys you five minutes of extra life.”

Under this assumption, doing one hour of exercise, four days a week for forty years would buy someone four years and nine months of extra life.

The data for this calculation is based on a population of more than half a million people who were followed over ten years.

People who exercised at higher intensity were shown to get seven or eight minutes of extra life.

EXERCISE:

How would adding more exercise to your daily routine improve how you look, feel, and live?

What would you have the time to do with the extra years you gain?

“The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work.”

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“The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work.”

—Richard Bach, American author

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Where do you draw the line between work and play?

Consider the activities that you want to, get to, and have to get done.

My grandchildren recently started 1st grade and preschool. At this early point in their lives, virtually everything is play and their enthusiasm and engagement is always ready to go.

About the only things that they don’t want to do is clean up their toys and go to bed, because of their own youthful FOMO.

EXERCISE:

In what areas of your life can you shift your views on your “have to do’s” to turn them into “get to do’s” and “want to do’s”?

What insights have you discovered from turning inward lately

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What insights have you discovered from turning inward lately?

—Calm App Reflection

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Over the dozen or so years that I have been writing this blog, I’ve referred to many strategies and techniques to journey inward, in order to gain even greater insight into oneself and the world.

Perhaps you have adopted practices such as forest bathing and embracing the natural world, meditation, or finding moments to slip into silence to tap into your own inner voice and wisdom.

Have you ever worked with a coach?

If so, you may also have found the inquiry generated through powerful questions and thoughtful reflection very revealing.

Peeling back the layers of our awareness helps us explore more of own soulful guidance to living a more engaging and meaningful life.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways do you look within yourself for better answers and insights?

What new and different approaches can and will you explore to aid in your discovery?

Awaken to the mystery of being here and enter the quiet immensity of your own presence

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“Awaken to the mystery of being here and enter the quiet immensity of your own presence.”

—John O’Donohue, shared by fellow blogger Sue Hetherington

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Neil de Grasse Tyson recently discussed the odds of our existence by highlighting the vast number of potential genetic combinations that could create a human being.

In a conversation with comedian Theo Von, Tyson explained that while approximately 100 billion people have ever lived, the number of possible genetic combinations that could form a human being is exponentially larger.

This mathematical perspective underscores the extraordinary nature of being alive as a miraculous gift we get to open each day.

EXERCISE:

What will you do today and in the future with your life lottery winnings?