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“Who do you serve and what problems do you solve?”

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“Who do you serve and what problems do you solve?”

—Simon Sinek, British-born American author and inspirational speaker

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How satisfied do you feel at the end of each day?

Regardless of whether you receive gobs of recognition or praise from those around you, it’s helpful to have your own internal scoreboard to measure your life.

How clear are you about the people you serve in both your personal and professional worlds? Take a few minutes to get very specific so that you can increase your intentionality with these folks.

What problems do you solve that they value and most likely couldn’t solve as well or as quickly without your assistance? Again, get as specific as possible as to the difference you make in their lives.

EXERCISE:

At the end of the day ask and answer the question, Who did I serve and what problems did I help solve? I hope you then sleep well and give this exercise another go tomorrow.

With continuous practice and focus you are bound to be successful

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With continuous practice and focus you are bound to be successful.

—Calm App Reflection

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Prospective coaching clients frequently ask about the success rate of my client engagements.

Many people focus on the coach and the coaching process, and fail to look at their own role in the process of achievement.

As far as I know, coaches and their clipboards must remain on the sidelines.

Although we often point our fingers toward outside sources of success, it always comes down to the athlete or team’s talent, focus, and continuous practice that leads to putting points on the board in both sports and in life.

EXERCISE:

How focused are you in your personal and professional pursuits?

At what level do you strive and persist in your efforts to master your game or your craft?

How do you and will you recognize and acknowledge how far you’ve come and see the signs of success along the way?

Friday Review: KNOWLEDGE

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Friday Review: KNOWLEDGE

What place does the accumulation of knowledge have in your world? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“The unfed mind devours itself.”

 

 

 

 

 

“We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge.”

 

 

 

“Knowledge is like underwear. It is useful to have it, but not necessary to show it off.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Truth does not mind being questioned

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“Truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does not like being challenged.”

—Author Unknown

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Today’s quote is often attributed to Fredrick Nietzsche, although there is no definitive source confirming this.

It emphasizes the idea that genuine truths can withstand scrutiny, while falsehoods tend to resist examination.

Nietzsche’s philosophy, however, significantly influenced modern thinking on truth and lies by challenging traditional notions of objective truth.

He proposed that truth is not an absolute entity but a construct shaped by human perspectives and interpretations driven by the “will to power.”

EXERCISE:

How do you sort through the truths and lies being spread so widely these days?

How do these messages pass your scrutiny and your endeavors to make important decisions in your life?

A good friend is a connection to life

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“A good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.”

—Lois Wyse, late American advertising executive, author, and columnist

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Statistics point to the fact that the majority of us are worried about our world on a daily basis.

Just examining the nightly news or your daily media feeds is enough to give you indigestion and more than a few sleepless nights!

Where do we begin as individuals to right our ships and sail together toward a better future?

Perhaps it all begins with friendship, as today’s quote suggests.

As the saying goes: To have a friend begins with being a friend.

EXERCISE:

Where in your world can you extend the olive branch of friendship to build more and better connections to support a world that works better for everyone?

“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.

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“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.”

—Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the United States

Weston & Ella

I had the opportunity to do some Halloween trick-or-treating with my daughter, son-in-law, and two excited grandchildren.

Given that Halloween was within a week of our election here in the US, we needed to navigate around numerous political lawn signs as we headed from house to house.

Of particular interest was the absence of any political conversation among the many parents accompanying their kids. What was present was a strong sense of friendly camaraderie as everyone took delight in celebrating this extra sweet occasion.

Woodrow Wilson — the author of today’s quote — was President between 1913 and 1921. He won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1919 for his efforts in establishing the League of Nations.  He is also remembered for his numerous legislative accomplishments and his high-minded idealism.

EXERCISE:

In what ways do you contribute to the cementing power of friendship in your communities?

How could you win your own peace prize for your idealistic efforts?

When we do our best to support others,

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When we do our best to support others, be careful to not limit the struggles that can enhance their growth and transformation.

—Calm App Reflection

Barry teaching Ella to use chopsticks

My granddaughter has taught me some valuable lessons over the past year that have improved my coaching efforts.

When we play together, I’ve noticed how often I take the initiative to help her with a particular task and on many occasions, she would coach me by saying “Ella Do!”

Although watching her struggle in many of her efforts can be difficult, it’s very joyful to see her tackle something new with a big smile, noting that she did it herself.

EXERCISE:

Where do you handicap those around you by carrying their load or reducing their struggles?

How might a better strategy to help them become stronger and more capable involve letting them do more of the heavy lifting?

Friday Review: Kindness

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Friday Review: Kindness

What acts of kindness have you witnessed or displayed over the last year? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

 

 

 

 

Every little bit helps.

 

 

 

“When you see somebody taking a photo of their friends, offer to take the shot for them so that they can be in the picture.”

If we do not plant knowledge when young it will give us no shade when we are old

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“If we do not plant knowledge when young it will give us no shade when we are old.”

—Philip Dormer Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield, 16th Century British statesman

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Early childhood education plays a crucial role in shaping a child’s future success.

Here is evidence of its supporting role on cognitive, social, and emotional development:

  • It helps children develop foundational skills in reading, math, self-control, and positive relationships.
  • It improves societal outcomes such as high school graduation rates, years of education completed, earnings, and long-term impacts on life achievement.

EXERCISE:

Who are the little ones in your life and in your communities?

How are you playing a role in assuring that they get all the support possible to benefit them well into adulthood?

 

Moral authority comes from following universal principles

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“Moral authority comes from following universal principles like honesty, integrity, and treating people with respect.”

—Stephen Covey, 20th century American educator, author, businessman, and speaker

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I looked up the definitions of Moral Authority and Power to see where and how they are being applied in our society.

Here is what I discovered:

Moral Authority is the influence one has based on ethical principles and character, allowing them to inspire or persuade others by appealing to what is right and good. It is internally generated, fragile, and most continuously earned through trust and authentic behavior.

Power, in contrast, often refers to the ability to enforce actions or decisions through formal authority or control over people and resources. It can be granted by position or title, and is more about control than influence.

While power can compel action, moral authority persuades through ethical appeal.

EXERCISE:

How do you react and respond to individuals with moral authority versus power in your personal and professional lives?

What approaches do you find work best to influence or persuade others to follow your lead?