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When we lack real problems, we create imaginary ones

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“When we lack real problems, we create imaginary ones. When we lack meaningful work, we perfect the unimportant.”

—Shane Parrish, Creator of the Farnam Street blog

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Human nature thrives on purpose and challenge.

When we lack real problems to solve, our minds often fill the void by creating imaginary ones — this phenomenon can lead to unnecessary stress and distractions, as we fixate on trivial issues that don’t truly matter.

Similarly, when we lack meaningful work, we tend to perfect the unimportant — spending excessive time refining details that add little value, simply to feel productive.

EXERCISE:

Where in your world are you majoring in the minors of life?

How would greater focus on real issues and meaningful work provide you the results and fulfillment you desire?

No matter how good you shaved today

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“No matter how good you shaved today, you have to do it again tomorrow.”

—Reed Markham, University Professor & Author

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Today’s quote encapsulates a fundamental truth about life and personal growth.

It reminds us that excellence is not a one-time achievement, but a continuous process.

Just like shaving, our personal and professional development requires daily attention and effort. We can’t just rest on our laurels or past accomplishments. Each day presents new challenges and opportunities for growth.

It’s not about perfection but about showing up every day, embracing the attributes of consistency and persistence. By adopting this mindset, we can cultivate lasting habits and achieve sustainable success in all areas of our lives.

EXERCISE:

Replace the word shaved in the following sentence:

No matter how good you __________ today, you have to do it again tomorrow to have the life you want.

What you push down doesn’t vanish

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“What you push down doesn’t vanish, it festers and wields quiet power over your thoughts and actions.”

—James Clear, author of Atomic Habits

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In our journey of personal and professional growth, we often encounter challenges or emotions we try to suppress.

These buried feelings don’t disappear on their own — they remain within us, influencing our behaviors and decisions in both subtle and overt ways.

As a coach, I encourage clients to face these often-hidden aspects of themselves by acknowledging and more importantly addressing what we’ve pushed down.

In doing so, we can truly grow and achieve our best.

EXERCISE:

In what areas of your life are you suppressing challenging thoughts and emotions?

How is resisting these feelings causing them to fester and persist in your life?

For extra insight into such matters, consider checking out Rick Carson’s book Taming your Gremlins: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way.

 

To appreciate the beauty of a snowflake

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“To appreciate the beauty of a snowflake it is necessary to stand out in the cold.”

—Aristotle, Ancient Greek philosopher and polymath

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Aristotle’s philosophy encourages stepping outside one’s comfort zone as part of pursuing eudaemonia — human flourishing.

He emphasizes that achieving excellence and virtue often require effort, discomfort, and rational action beyond habitual or pleasurable routines.

EXERCISE:

How has taking on life’s challenges and stepping outside your habitual and pleasurable pursuits provided you some of the more beautiful aspects of living?

Where and when can you continue to step out into some of the chillier aspects of life to discover other kinds of beauty awaiting you?

How are you challenging and stretching your capabilities

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How are you challenging and stretching your capabilities? Put yourself to the test to expand your growth potential.

—Calm App Reflection

Barry and Ella

Our granddaughter Ella is an exuberant and expressive little girl.

She looks up to her six-year-old brother and wants to do whatever he’s doing, and more. She has little or no fear and abruptly objects whenever anyone tries doing things for her.

When it comes to buckling her car seat, peeling a mandarin orange, going on an amusement ride, or eating with chopsticks, she’s always up for the challenge.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways are you challenging and stretching your capabilities?

Where can and will you put yourself to the test with greater exuberance and realize more of your growth potential?

 

“Life is like an onion; you peel off one layer at a time and sometimes you weep.”

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“Life is like an onion; you peel off one layer at a time and sometimes you weep.”

—Carl Sandberg, 20th Century Pulitzer Prize winning poet and journalist

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Do you do much cooking? If so, how often do you use onions in your recipes?

If you use them often you know that they are most often sliced and diced rather than peeled layer by layer.

Life can be like that too, when its difficulties and challenges seem to slice through our existing plans and expectations.

Getting back to cooking, what happens when our layered friends are sautéed and browned?

Yep! the caramelization process brings out natural sugars to enhance their subtle sweetness!

EXERCISE:

Like an onion, how can you bring out more of life’s sweetness into your days and accept the tears that often come as we slice, dices and layer?

“The heart is not a knee that can be bent.”

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“The heart is not a knee that can be bent.”

—Senegalese proverb

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We live in two fifty-five and older senior communities — one in Pennsylvania, one in Florida. For many of us, the added trips around the sun come with various maladies — including conditions related to the wear and tear on hips, shoulders, and — given today’s quote — knees.

Some of the people I know have experienced many of these conditions on multiple occasions. What always inspires me are their courageous hearts, which have them face their challenges and continue to take each step to live as fully and meaningfully as possible.

EXERCISE:

How does your own courageous heart help you stand tall and steady when life tries to bend you over and knock you down?

What helps you take the challenging aspect of life in stride

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What helps you take the challenging aspect of life in stride?

—Calm App Reflection

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FULL QUOTE: “What helps you take the challenging aspect of life in stride? What lollipops of love do you give yourself and others to make the world a little sweeter?”

Wendy and I recently spent several days with the family of a very close friend who passed away suddenly.

During this time, family and friends from near and far gathered to acknowledge and celebrate this wonderful man.

Along with the tremendous outpouring of love and support, many of the people in attendance brought all types of treats for everyone to share as we offered sweet stories from the life of this very special soul.

EXERCISE:

How do you serve and support others in your communities facing challenging times?

What gestures and offerings ease the pain to help make life a bit sweeter?

Embrace all of your wins no matter their size

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Embrace all of your wins no matter their size.

—Calm App Reflection

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As we begin a new year it is a common practice to reflect on the year gone by to see how it compared to our expectations.

Far too many of us experience regret and even shame for coming up short of our grandiose plans. With the wind knocked out of our sails, it’s increasingly difficult to shoot for the stars again in the year ahead.

Instead of looking through these lenses, consider the phrase What I got done today is what I got done today.

Acknowledge all your wins, in which you met the many challenges that landed in your lap the past 365 days.

EXERCISE:

Display the phrase What I got done today is what I got done today on your bathroom mirror.

Reflect on its simple wisdom each morning and night as you brush your teeth for at least two minutes.

Better dental checkups will be an added bonus!

“The path of least resistance is a terrible teacher.”

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“The path of least resistance is a terrible teacher.”

—Ryan Holiday, American author and host of the podcast The Daily Stoic

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Look back on your life and consider your most impactful teachers.

Which of them left a lasting impression where — even today — you still refer to their lessons?

How often do you recall wanting to be challenged and stretched versus going for that easy “A”?

In today’s convenience-centric world, the goal most often seems to focus on maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain.

What has this approach taught us and how has it weakened our spirits and resolve?

EXERCISE:

Consider reading Robert Fritz’s book, The Path of Least Resistance to see what it has to offer.

Feel free to let me know your top take-aways as you wrestle with this concept.