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I would rather be a little nobody than an evil somebody.

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“I would rather be a little nobody than an evil somebody.”

—Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States

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What qualities and character traits do you associate with Abraham Lincoln?

What pops in my mind is the moniker “Honest Abe.” A close second is his focus on serving others, and his considerable humility when it came to serving himself.

If you follow the work of Jim Collins, Abe would be considered a level 5 leader. Collins’ work and extensive research focused on making organizations that were built to last, and what it took to have them go From Good to Great.

EXERCISE:

How does today’s quote reflect your views of yourself and the world around you?

How can Lincoln’s words serve as a guide for all of us as we step into each new day?

People hear what we say but they see what we do and seeing is believing

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“People hear what we say but they see what we do and seeing is believing.”

—Author Unknown

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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is one of my favorite books. I’ve read it many times over the years and very much enjoyed the audio book read by Peter Coyote.

Among the four agreements, being impeccable with your word stands out for me.

In a world where there are countless examples of folks who are all talk and little action, I crave associating with people who walk their talk.

Examine the people in your life who demonstrate the character traits you most admire. How do their actions — and not just their words — inspire you to be a better version of yourself?

EXERCISE:

What do people hear and see when they observe your words and actions?

Where might an upgrade of impeccability with your word be in order to make more believers of the people in your life?

One’s life begins on so many occasions, constructing itself out of accident derived from coincidence compounded by character

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“One’s life begins on so many occasions, constructing itself out of accident derived from coincidence compounded by character.”

—Donald Hall, 20th Century American poet, writer, editor and literary critic

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How often do you reflect on your life and how you arrived at where you are today?

What are some of the pivotal moments—big and small—that changed your life direction and set you on different paths than those you intended?

Although we wish to believe that we have complete control over our lives and can be self-determined, we can all see countless examples in which that was not the case.

Accidents, coincidences, and serendipity play a considerable role in where we end up.

Fortunately,  our character—which we develop over time—act as a gyroscope to help us regain our headings when certain events knock us off course.

EXERCISE:

What are some of the essential elements of your character?

How have they kept you centered and stable over the years, to keep your life unfolding as you intend?

If there was no money, and everything depended on your moral standards

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“If there was no money, and everything depended on your moral standards, the way that you behave, and the way you treated people, how would you be doing in life?”

—Tupac Shakur, 20th Century American rapper and actor

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Money and possessions are a primary way many of us measure our success and status.

Who are the people at the top in your various professional and personal communities?

What are their extrinsic and intrinsic measures of excellence and achievement?

How do you measure yourself against these people?

How often do you use good character and high moral standards as benchmarks for a meaningful life?

EXERCISE:

If you were to eliminate all external evidence of success how well would you be doing?

Create a list of 5-10 people in your life that model the moral standards and behaviors you most admire.

Do your best to spend additional time with these folks and let their example help you up your game.

 

Friday Review: Character

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Friday Review: Character

What is your definition of character? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“The story of each stone leads back to a mountain.”

 

 

 

 

“It is the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.”

 

 

 

“Faced with crisis, the man of character falls back on himself.”

 

 

“Mystery reveals itself to those who maintain an openness of character.”

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“Mystery reveals itself to those who maintain an openness of character.”

—Robert Grundin, Swedish Actor

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Most of us love a good mystery. We love good books, TV shows, or movies that take us on a ride with plot twists and surprises. We enjoy excitement and delight when we sleuth our way through these adventures. We are primed for openness to go down whatever path lies ahead.

When we close our books, turn off our sets, and clean up our popcorn and candy containers, how open do we remain when we return to our actual lives?

EXERCISE:

How can you expand your openness of character to more fully experience the many mysteries life has to offer?

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.

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“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”

—Helen Keller, 20th Century American author, disability rights advocate, political activist

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Life is very different from traditional schooling in that it gives us the test first and then we (hopefully) learn the lesson.

What character-building experiences and trials has life presented you over the past year?

How has your soul been strengthened?

Where have your ambitions been inspired, leading you toward new levels of achievement and success?

EXERCISE:

Please pick up a copy of The Road to Character by David Brooks to challenge yourself to re-balance the scales between the focus on external success (“resume virtues”) and your core principles.

“Get out there. See the people.”

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“Get out there. See the people.”

—Author Unknown

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I have a friend and client named Tim who is a highly successful business leader. He exemplifies many strong qualities of leadership and personal character that most of his customers, colleagues, and even competitors admire.

Among his most positive attributes is his willingness to take initiative and proactively put himself out into the world to see the people and make things happen.

Where do you find yourself on the introvert-to-extrovert spectrum, especially given the constraints caused by the pandemic?

How have you continued to reach out to connect despite your efforts to be physically distant and keep one another safe?

Where have you not made the effort to be out in the world in some essential way?

EXERCISE:

How can and will you get out there and (safely) see the people in the coming months?

How can and will you encourage others in your personal and professional communities to do the same?

“When you seek to advance your own position in life, character is the best lever — perhaps not in the short term, but certainly over the long term.”

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“When you seek to advance your own position in life, character is the best lever — perhaps not in the short term, but certainly over the long term.”

—Ryan Holiday, Author of The Daily Stoic

I am reading The Daily Stoic for the third time.

History’s greatest minds — including George Washington, Fredrick the Great, Ralph Waldo Emerson, and today’s top achievers — embrace the practical wisdom of the ancient stoics.

The timeless wisdom of Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, and others offers all of us a practical philosophy for living a better life.

The stoics were individuals of great character who navigated their lives by core principles and guiding tenants, not simply by what was easy in the moment.

Their long-term perspective on what was morally right and served society at large guided their thoughts and deeds.

EXERCISE:

Where and how can you more fully leverage your own strongest character traits to advance your own life and that of others in your personal and professional communities?

“Faced with crisis, the man of character falls back on himself.”

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“Faced with crisis, the man of character falls back on himself.”

—Charles De Gaulle, 20th Century President of France

We need more Level 5 leaders today!

In his classic book, Good to Great, Jim Collins describes Level 5 leaders as more like Abraham Lincoln and Socrates than George Patton or Julius Caesar.

Level 5 Leaders have a mixture of humility and stoic resolve, doing what it takes to make organizations—and hopefully a nation—truly great again.

These special people demonstrate character by shouldering responsibility for difficulties and generously acknowledging and praising others for the efforts and progress that are realized.

EXERCISE:

Where are you seeing evidence of great character and resolve in the leaders in your personal and professional communities?

How and in what ways can you also fall back on yourself during these difficult times?