“The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.”
—Kevin Kelly, Author of Improvised Life
How do you demonstrate your sincere interest in others? A quick and easy coaching technique is to master your use of open-ended questions.
Placing the words who, what, where, when, why, or how at the beginning of these questions works magic because they cannot be answered with a simple yes or no.
To go a bit deeper and discover more about these people, layer with another open-ended question by using a piece of their initial answer. Doing so shows that that we are listening, and honor their views and perspectives.
Beneath these two approaches is the fact that you are showing genuine interest in their favorite subject, which for virtually all of us is ourselves.
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